Al-Anon is support groups all over the world that where people affected by alcoholism in one way or another meet to share experiences and help each other. The goal of theses groups is to be advantageous and therapeutic.
Many alcoholics have overcome this condition thanks to the help they get from Al-Anon which is a support group that started in 1951. This organization was founded by Lois Wilson, who is also popular by the name of Lois W and Al Anon came into being 16 years after the formation of Alcoholics Anonymous [AA] by her husband. The group was started for the sole purpose of assisting alcoholic family members recover which was something she was facing in her life. Al-Anon is an organization self-supported through member donations. There are meetings available through the assistance of family members and friends of alcoholics to cope with and better serve the interests of their loved ones even if they are in different stages of recovery.
The fight against alcoholism is a joint undertaking and that is the objective of this support group.
Alcoholism Affecting The Whole Family
Al-Anon recognizes that alcoholism affects everyone in the family not just the addicted member. The recovery process is a joint effort and the family members and other people close to the addict must be involved.
Lack of understanding the cause of their loved one's drinking problem makes family members suffer self-condemnation and also not know how to deal with the problem. Meetings deal with these issues and make members understand that alcoholism is a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon For Teenagers
A particular group called Alateen assists young people impacted by alcoholism in their family is also run by Al-Anon.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
The Advantages Of Al-Anon Group
Al-Anon members benefit by being introduced to other people and families who have suffered from alcoholism. People are different, although, Al-Anon members have all had similar experiences with their struggles. The main benefit of Al-Anon is having an opportunity to find and talk with individuals who's had similar experiences. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Give us a call on 0800 772 3971 to assist you find one close by you.
What You Should Anticipate From A Meeting
Al-Anon meetings are open for anybody who is affected by someone else's drinking habit. Contact an Al-Anon group near you if you are concerned about someone who is drinking more than they should or who is making your life stressful because of their drinking.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
Al-Anon is a group that is unidentified
Whether personally or through a family member, everyone in each meeting has been impacted by alcoholism
No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
These Meetings Are Of Different Types
You may find some more beneficial to you than others.
There is no religious base for Al-Anon
Al-Anon meetings follow the 12 Step program
The meetings conducted by Al-Anon have a simple formula which gives the attendees the option of taking what they prefer and leaving behind the rest. Based on this formula the meetings concentrate on the sharing of experiences and the hardships of the attendees rather than giving them any instructions about what they should do.
The recovery stages are outlined before the meeting starts. These 12 steps have been adapted from a similar program which is also implemented by Alcoholics Anonymous. Members of Al-Anon can take help from a sponsor who can assist them to work through the steps and is available for any support needed during hardships of any kind just as the case is with Alcoholics Anonymous. The 12 Steps are as follows:
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
Members learn to accept alcoholism as a disease they cannot control in others.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
After admitting that they are powerless they begin to understand the fact that they can be brought back to sanity.
Made a resolution to turn our lives and our will over to the care of God in a way we perceived Him.
Learning how to forgive is an extremely important step of the program, together with acceptance.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
The group members write down a list of the instances when they may have been unfair to themselves or their significant others (for example, threats).
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Thats a study of each listing in the group members moral inventory, which enables them to delve into each problem.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This step allows the member to off-load his recovery to someone greater and bigger than themselves to handle.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
This part of the twelve step process helps people realize how controlling or judgmental they have been towards an alcoholic and how counterproductive it is.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
Many people blame themselves for their loved ones addiction.
They must learn to forgive and make it right for themselves.
Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
The next step is to take action, after you agree to make changes.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
It takes some period before you can complete the stages.
Slipping up is quite normal despite members already having made an inventory.
Step 10 provides a recognition that this is an ongoing process.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious effort with god as we understood him praying only for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out.
This is a step that is personal and spiritual to encompass acceptance and comfort amid the stress of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The last step is a realization that the journey of the member is not over.
After this, group members are encouraged to support others by sharing what they have already learned.
A Greater Understanding Of The Higher Power
Members of Al-Anon believe there is a "higher power' greater than themselves even though the group is not affiliated with any religion. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Al-Anon gladly accepts members from all religious traditions and denominations; nobody is forced to alter their beliefs here.